In my previous article, "Moving Beyond the Limited", I talked about how getting what we want in life can often be sabotaged by the existence of deeper underlying fears and beliefs that we may not even be conscious of and that these need to be brought to light and cleared in order to achieve what it is we truly desire.
So how can we do this on a practical level?
Well, let me give you an example of something that happened to me the other day which might help to put it all in perspective. I recently came out of hospital after major surgery for a total hip replacement. Whilst I was away my partner had worked very hard to make the bedroom as comfortable as possible for my return and convalesence, putting down new flooring and refreshing the layout, including, for my convenience, the construction of a very functional and well-crafted bedside table on wheels.
However on the very day that I arrived home I found him suffering quite badly from a flu virus that resulted in swollen tonsils and aching muscles and so he was in need of rest and recuperation himself.
This immediately 'triggered' in me the old lament - just like the song - that he (i.e the whole world!) wasn't available just when I needed him most. I was flooded with feelings of being abandoned and alone and with an unfulfilled yearning to be rescued and comforted. Neeedless to say the by now all too familiar tears welled up and overwhelmed me, leaving me to feel an utter and total victim to my perceived 'lot'.
And with the increase in emotional pain came a corresponding increase in tiredness and physical pain in and around the newly replaced hip.
I could have stayed there wallowing in this state, feeling sorry for myself and remaining a victim to pain ... and many years ago I would have definitely remained stuck in this miserable condition for quite some time. After all it was a well learned family pattern. Who am I to be disloyal!
But this time I was well prepared, after years of personal growth experience behind me and some excellent tools I could use to change things around. One of these is the practice of AWARENESS. This involves slowing down enough to listen to the body and its emotional responses, noticing its reactions but from a place slightly removed, as an observer or witnesser and this helped me to disengage from being completely immersed in or overtaken by the experience, enough to make use of another very simple yet very effective practice of making the choice to focus my thoughts on SOMETHING BETTER THAN IT
And according to the Law of Attraction the best way to attract what you want into your life is to always start by looking for thoughts that are better than the current negative ones (even if only slightly better)
So I chose to remember all of the heartfelt effort that my partner had put into making life comfortable for me, despite the fact that he wasn't well.
I'd like to add that, in reality, I didn't IMMEDIATELY go to a place of supreme ecstasy and joy. The addictive 'pull' towards feeling abandoned was quite strong - maybe because there was a higher percentage of 'abandonment' vs 'joy-receiving' receptor cells clustered together on the surface of the cells in my body, linked to thoughts and learned beliefs about 'support' in my body structure
But it did enable me, as a first step to GO INTO NEUTRAL - neither deeply sad nor
blissfully happy - and then from there it became much easier to make the transition to feeling joyful which I accessed -now that I was no longer held back by heavy feelings of abandonment and such - by making a conscious choice to appreciate the beautiful flowers in the room that had been sent by various dear friends to wish me well.
With this transition came ease of physical pain too.
So if you find yourself hooking into a particular way of thinking that you know doesn't serve you, that maybe even sends you on a downward spiral to feeling hurt or angry or lost and alone, that somehow you can't seem to get out of even though you really want to be happy and joyful, it is no use beating yourself up for not being able to just 'snap out of it'.
This will just make things worse because you are still focused on the negative and on the problem. In fact the body's addiction to bad feelings may even be leading you to make things worse by inviting self-criticism. Maybe this feels somehow friendly and familiar in a funny kind of way.
The way to get out of this spiral is to let yourself become aware of what is
hooking you and how you are responding to it.
You could try taking a few deep breaths and this will give you some space to reflect and start listening to and observing what's going on inside. This will help you to disengage enough to turn your attention to thoughts that are better than where you are currently, even if just slightly better. You could, for example, bring to mind a time when you watched a magnificent sunset or listened to some beautiful music or looked into the delightful eyes of an innocent child, or even just concentrate on your breath which can be quite calming. By the law of attraction such thoughts will magnetise more thoughts and feelings towards you that are of similar nature and you will begin to feel much better.
It is something that needs to be practised and this practice can be enhanced with other useful tools and processes such as various forms of energy medicine. Over time, as you come to embody what is essentially the Truly Abundant and Joyful Being that you are at heart, you will find yourself naturally coming to a place of peace within yourself and the world, able to attract towards you whatever you desire
Wishing you much love, light and laughter
Joy
P.S Please feel free to comment or pass this on. I would love to get your feedback
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Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Moving Beyond The Limited
If you find yourself falling back into the same negative patterns of thought and behaviour, the same negative reactions to the daily events in your life, no matter how positive you try to be, you are probably being held in the grip of your own self-limiting beliefs.
These are often to be found lurking in your subconscious body-mind and are considered to be at the very root of what stops you getting what you feel you really want in life.
So in order to manifest what you really want it's important first to bring these limiting beliefs up, out of the unconscious, into the light of consciousness and
identify what they are so that you have choice ... because with awareness comes choice
Limiting beliefs and the inner struggle and conflict that comes with them usually come about because you feel you DON'T DESERVE the things you desire. This feeling
is often at the bottom of other feelings such as fear of abandonment, anger, jealousy, self-criticism and so on.
On the surface you may be focused on, and conscious of, your wants and desires and may even make positive affirmations about them but deep down in your subconscious if you're convinced you don't deserve them you will be prevented from accomplishing your heart's desire. You can't take control of something you are not conscious of.
So you need to do a clearing out of these old limiting beliefs from your subconscious. It's probably not the first time you've wanted something and found yourself feeling held back, locked in and paralysed by an inner struggle between two conflicting parts of you, one wanting the wish to be fulfilled and the other not.
Despite the fact that at heart we all have a natural bias towards reaching for the best and at the deepest level our nature is one of unlimited potential, truly capable of manifesting our deepest heart's desires, this often gets covered over or blocked. We develop protective layers to cover up what we see as our vulnerability - something we learned during the stages of growth of our own personal history.
Most of these limiting beliefs and blocks are not just abstract ideas or concepts but are actually physically present as they manifest in the body.
Thoughts and feelings become 'embodied' and show up in the structure of our cells. On the surface of these cells are receptors which are fine tuned to receive certain signals and some of these signals are emotionally configured. So if, for example, there was a time or two (or more) when you flooded your body with feelings of "don't deserve" your cells became attuned to that emotion. You could almost say that they developed a bias or 'red flag' alert towards "not deserving" and if it happens often enough it may even be experienced almost like an 'addiction'.
So the thought, the desire for something, automatically triggers a "don't deserve" response as it attaches biochemically to the receptors on the cell.
But also, since like attracts like, any thoughts that are SIMILAR to the original thought or desire will ALSO trigger feelings of not deserving as these similar thoughts and desires feed into the already 'primed' receptors. Eventually the cell may grow so many of these receptors that there's no more room on the surface of the cell to grow or accomodate the more positive 'joy-' or 'self worth-' receptors.
So the experience of joy is inhibited even though you may want to be joyful.
And this is what you might call SABOTAGE... This can happen equally with other negative thoughts, beliefs (which are simply thoughts repeated over and over) and emotions like fear anger, doubt, judgment, depression, sadness and so on. They literally build a barrier that rejects or blocks the more positive signals sent to you from your Essential Higher Self.
The usual pathway can be described like this:
Your wish goes to God, the Source of your Well-Being and the inspiration you need to accomplish your wish comes back to you. But because of the block or barrier, the inspiration doesn't reach its intended destination.
Every time you call for help the answer is always available but you don’t receive the response if you have limiting beliefs or are addicted to negative emotions.
They really have to go, to be cleared completely out of your body-mind because they limit the abundance that is constantly available to you.
The trick is to learn to recognise these triggered responses at the time that they occur so that you can then make the transition... to something more neutral perhaps at first, and then as the negatively tuned receptors fall away through disuse, room is made for a higher more joyous vibration to be embodied.
Step by step you can learn to make more empowered choices for yourself, embodying them in the growth of receptor cells attuned to these choices which will then provide pathways to reach the abundance that has always been here for you... and which you will then be able to experience, savour and enjoy
These are often to be found lurking in your subconscious body-mind and are considered to be at the very root of what stops you getting what you feel you really want in life.
So in order to manifest what you really want it's important first to bring these limiting beliefs up, out of the unconscious, into the light of consciousness and
identify what they are so that you have choice ... because with awareness comes choice
Limiting beliefs and the inner struggle and conflict that comes with them usually come about because you feel you DON'T DESERVE the things you desire. This feeling
is often at the bottom of other feelings such as fear of abandonment, anger, jealousy, self-criticism and so on.
On the surface you may be focused on, and conscious of, your wants and desires and may even make positive affirmations about them but deep down in your subconscious if you're convinced you don't deserve them you will be prevented from accomplishing your heart's desire. You can't take control of something you are not conscious of.
So you need to do a clearing out of these old limiting beliefs from your subconscious. It's probably not the first time you've wanted something and found yourself feeling held back, locked in and paralysed by an inner struggle between two conflicting parts of you, one wanting the wish to be fulfilled and the other not.
Despite the fact that at heart we all have a natural bias towards reaching for the best and at the deepest level our nature is one of unlimited potential, truly capable of manifesting our deepest heart's desires, this often gets covered over or blocked. We develop protective layers to cover up what we see as our vulnerability - something we learned during the stages of growth of our own personal history.
Most of these limiting beliefs and blocks are not just abstract ideas or concepts but are actually physically present as they manifest in the body.
Thoughts and feelings become 'embodied' and show up in the structure of our cells. On the surface of these cells are receptors which are fine tuned to receive certain signals and some of these signals are emotionally configured. So if, for example, there was a time or two (or more) when you flooded your body with feelings of "don't deserve" your cells became attuned to that emotion. You could almost say that they developed a bias or 'red flag' alert towards "not deserving" and if it happens often enough it may even be experienced almost like an 'addiction'.
So the thought, the desire for something, automatically triggers a "don't deserve" response as it attaches biochemically to the receptors on the cell.
But also, since like attracts like, any thoughts that are SIMILAR to the original thought or desire will ALSO trigger feelings of not deserving as these similar thoughts and desires feed into the already 'primed' receptors. Eventually the cell may grow so many of these receptors that there's no more room on the surface of the cell to grow or accomodate the more positive 'joy-' or 'self worth-' receptors.
So the experience of joy is inhibited even though you may want to be joyful.
And this is what you might call SABOTAGE... This can happen equally with other negative thoughts, beliefs (which are simply thoughts repeated over and over) and emotions like fear anger, doubt, judgment, depression, sadness and so on. They literally build a barrier that rejects or blocks the more positive signals sent to you from your Essential Higher Self.
The usual pathway can be described like this:
Your wish goes to God, the Source of your Well-Being and the inspiration you need to accomplish your wish comes back to you. But because of the block or barrier, the inspiration doesn't reach its intended destination.
Every time you call for help the answer is always available but you don’t receive the response if you have limiting beliefs or are addicted to negative emotions.
They really have to go, to be cleared completely out of your body-mind because they limit the abundance that is constantly available to you.
The trick is to learn to recognise these triggered responses at the time that they occur so that you can then make the transition... to something more neutral perhaps at first, and then as the negatively tuned receptors fall away through disuse, room is made for a higher more joyous vibration to be embodied.
Step by step you can learn to make more empowered choices for yourself, embodying them in the growth of receptor cells attuned to these choices which will then provide pathways to reach the abundance that has always been here for you... and which you will then be able to experience, savour and enjoy
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